There’s once a video that I have watched called “How Our Childhoods Affect Our Adult Lives”. In this video, it talked about no one can escape the inevitable mistakes here and there made by our parents when we were a child.
When we were a kid, we didn’t understand that the scold from father might be because of a difficult day at work for him. We didn’t know that the arguments between parents are normal no matter how much they love one another. We didn’t understand the time when we were left out at the parking lot that parents are just human like us. Instead, when we were children, our world trembled when they accused us of a mistake we made, the earth shattered when we heard our parents fighting.
We were helpless and vulnerable. In this childhood open prison, our dress codes were made, our schedules were arranged, who we hang out with were decided. However, unfortunately, the person that take cares of us are flawed. And most likely, had a tricky early child history as well. They were once a child like we were.
Then we grew up to be controlling because we were once neglected, we became over-achiever because we were once scolded that we were a failure, we became overly clingy to our partner because we were afraid of people leaving us.
The effect that childhood has for us is subtle yet when examined closely, the person we are today because of what our parents did or didn’t do, is made. It didn’t have to be a huge evil act, it didn’t have to be an extremely traumatic experience, however, in our once fragile and vulnerable body and mind, we were completely at the hand of our parents.
What we needed to understand is that there are no 30 days free trial for parenting. We are all, just like our parents once were, trying to do our best in the midst of our own error that is deep drilled into us. Until then, maybe we will better appreciate the life that we have, and that maybe, we turned out to be okay.
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